Check it out see what you think. Josh's Grandma sent this to me awhile ago and I have been trying to figure out how to paste it here! Thanks Jason!!
I am on Dr. Weil's list for Daily Tip, and sometimes he has something
really good. The tip for today was about forgiveness. When you click on
the link, you can read the responses other people wrote. I've copied here
the response that I liked best.
Being angry with someone because we believe their actions or inactions have
prevented us from getting what we want or need, is a common reaction in
life. We seemed to be born with the ability to be angry in order to get our
needs met. As a baby we cry when we are hungry, wet, or need to be held.
And if there is a loving person attending to our needs, we find that being
angry often gets us what we want. Eventually we learn that this is not the
only way to get what we want or need. There are times when we sense that we
have lost something that we had, and we become sad. It seems to me to be
anger turned inward because we realize that we don't always control events
in our lives. In fact, when we sense that we have no control over a
situation in our lives we become fearful. Fear appears to be the underlying
emotion of anger and sadness. Yet, when we feel that all of our needs at a
particular moment are being met, we experience many positive feelings such
as love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, generosity, and gentleness. We
seem to be "healthy" when we reach this state.
The belief that we need to continue to be angry and upset with someone in
order get what we want is a childish notion. At its core is a belief that
how we feel in a situation is dependent on what is happening outside of
ourselves. Forgiveness is a choice to take control from within. It
recognizes that in order to be reach a state of "healthiness" we need to
stop blaming others for how we feel and accept the fact we control how we
Interestingly, Christians often recite the Lord's Prayer asking for
forgiveness just as they forgive others. It recognizes that our sense of
being forgiven is related to our choice to forgive. I like the expanded
meaning of the Aramaic (the language Jesus spoke) of the words in this
prayer. They suggest an image of untying knots so that only a simple bond
of love exists between ourselves and others. It is related to the
understanding that we are spiritual beings on a human journey and not human
beings on a spiritual journey.
You can find other responses here:
>Dr Weil 08.07.2005
> Today's Tip
>Learning to Forgive
>Forgiveness is beneficial not only mentally but physically as well. People
>who forgive tend to be less angry, depressed, stressed out and anxious,
>and have lower blood pressure and heart rates than those who hold grudges.
>If you tend to have a hard time letting go of a grievance, consider that
>forgiveness does not mean you have to forget an incident, but rather that
>you can place a limit on how it affects you and your relationship with
>another, and that you benefit from the process as much as the person with
>whom you have the grudge.